Confidence is a critical aspect of our success and our own feelings of self-worth. It can make or break us – it is THE game-changer.
Do you SEE how a deep sense of self-confidence; a genuine understanding of your strengths; an unflappable belief in yourself; and a powerful presence will impact your success, happiness and ability to achieve what you are capable of achieving?
There are many different ways to approach understanding and learning more about what confidence is; why we struggle with it so often; and how develop more of it. There are numerous videos on YouTube on confidence – here is short take from a Navy Seal.
There many places you could start to address your confidence, let’s focus on one area in which you can begin working. And when you do, it will start to have an immediate impact on your own inner self-confidence and how you are perceived by others. Remember – perception IS reality – whether it is your inner perception or other’s perception of you.
Our external physical presence – our posture, the way we move, stand, sit, interact with others; the tone and volume of our voice; our gestures, focus and even what we are wearing – are all projections of our thoughts, feelings and beliefs. People intuitively ‘feel’ and instantaneously ‘read’ us by the presence we project in any given situation.
For example, what is your first thought when you look at this person?
What about this one?
Do you perceive one being more confident that the other? Why?
Our presence has an enormous impact on our perceived – and genuine – self-confidence. Following are some exercises that will help to build, enhance and increase your personal presence. A funny thing happens when you actually start being very mindful and intentional about these exercises – your inner confidence does actually start to strengthen. As Amy Cuddy says in her book Presence – Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges, “The body talks to the mind.” “Fake it until you become it.”
So, start a conversation between your body and mind…
- Stand up straight. Feet shoulder width apart. Hands on hips. Breathe and smile. Look at something or someone directly and kindly. Think “Wonder Woman”.
- Sit on a chair. Feet propped up on a table or desk. Hands behind your head. Think and imagine yourself in an “Executive Decision Making” mode.
- Stand in front of a table or desk. Feet shoulder width apart. Hands on desk with a slight lean into the desk. Think “Meeting discussion and I have the floor”.
These are just a few suggestions from Amy’s book. Here is a short video where she addresses power poses.
Amy Cuddy will be the Morning Keynote at the Annual 23rd Bay Path University Women’s Leadership Conference in Springfield, Massachusetts on April 6, 2018. Register here now.
I will be teaching a program with Strategic Alliances at Bay Path University on February 8, 2018 in East Longmeadow, Massachusetts. Register now for Confidence Changes Everything.
The situation you are in always dictates how appropriate one pose is as compared to another or whether you actually use them in ‘real time’ or not. Use your common sense and intuition.
Before every talk, group facilitation, workshop, seminar or meeting – I always find a place to pause. Breathe deeply. Center my thoughts and intention and ‘see’ the success. I stand tall in the “Wonder Woman” pose and ‘fill the room’ with the power of my compassion, leadership and deeply held belief in making a difference in other people’s lives.
Wow. It gets me centered every time and takes my mind off ME and focuses on the value I can bring to others.
Try it. It works.
There is so much more to share around this whole topic of self-confidence, eliminating the ‘imposter’, manifesting presence and really stepping into our own best selves!
Join us for the workshop on February 8th where I will share the lessons, knowledge and action steps I have found to help you discover your own limitless source of genuine confidence and presence.
Walk tall. Speak truly. Be you.